Love and Appreciation


Life is defined as the presence of energy in its many intricate and brilliantly complex forms. I am just a traveler here, carving out and exploring the many beautiful ways in which to live my life to its fullest.

This man right here… oh how I love to celebrate my LOVE and APPRECIATION for him any way I can. This beautiful man and I may currently live 172 miles from one another, and we may go for long periods of time without seeing one another, but it feels we’re not ever too far away. Today seems to be a good day to focus for a few minutes on what our relationship means to me, especially with how this past year has transpired.

My mom’s sudden passing last April prompted an immediate need to move my dad from Pittsburgh in with me in WNY. The bulk of May was spent securing logistics around selling his and my mom’s home while doing our best to help ease the roughest of edges for Dad.

During the process of selling and moving out of the Pittsburgh home, we realized quickly that we needed to move out of my home in WNY into a home better-suited for Dad’s needs. We were blessed to find a home quickly, and so between June and July, we finalized all the necessary steps. Four U-Haul trucks and one trailer rental, dozens of trips back and forth between the triad of Pittsburgh, State College, and Findley Lake… we did it all with the steady hand and heart of this man right here.

Then, just as we were getting Dad settled in and stabilized in our new home in WNY, he fell and broke his hip in October. David once again was right there by my side.

By far, last year was the most logistics-heavy and heart-opening year of my life, and this beautiful man has literally been right there with me every step of the way. Somehow, he was able to accomplish this task while remaining present for his daughter Lili, his work, and maintaining our nest in State College.

Not only has David absolutely shown up to help with the heavy work of the decision-making, clearing and moving process, he has gently held my hand through some of my deepest fears and anxieties over the logistics of becoming a full-time caregiver for an at-risk parent. We’ve had some incredibly challenging moments, and we’ve grown together in ways I could not have imagined.

Aside from caregiving for a parent, David and I are so blessed to be parenting two very bright and active teenagers…whew! What a world of love and activity there! Not only is this man fully capable of holding my hand, but I watch how he shows up every day for his daughter. Big Time. Miss Lili absolutely adores her papa, and I know that feeling is mutual.

When I look to what a relationship means to me, it is this man right here. He is calm. He is capable. He is funny! He makes me laugh every day…even those days when I’m not sure how we’re going to make it (and we’ve had a lot of those kind of days). David is the embodiment of how I envision the Sacred Masculine to be represented in the most balanced, inspired, grounded, and nurturing of ways. And… my oh my… this beautiful man is ohhhhh soooo sexy!!!!!

To say the least, we’ve not had a lot of alone time this past year, and this weekend it looks like we may! I’m SO looking forward to enjoying the quiet time with you, Light Line, so that we can do what we do best. I can’t wait to make plans with you. We’ve got a lot coming up on the horizon, friends! Get ready!

David, I love you. Thank you. I am so very grateful and cherish what we share.

P.S. We’re deeply blessed that Dad has turned the tight corner and is finally starting to feel himself again. His spirit is strong, he’s smiling, and he’s engaged again in the world around him. He’s even walking without a cane already!

Until next time I offer these words of wisdom for better or for worse. Please take them with a grain of salt for we each live our own individual truths. Our mission while we are here is to understand, accept, and celebrate that one very simple, but incredibly significant fact. For all this, I am grateful.